No kind deed goes without notice

FAVORS Some people may say that if your budget is tight to skip the favors, I disagree. Your favors need not cost a lot of money, but they are expected and your guests will appreciate the gesture.


Some of the best favors I have made, seen or receieved, made a statement.





They might reflect the season you get married: Tulip bulbs for an early Spring wedding; Paper parasols at a summer beach wedding; candied apples for fall; and oraments for a winter wedding.





You can purchase your favors or made them yourself. (homemade candles, soaps, or candies)





Try personalizing your favors to reflect where the two of you met, your interests, whatever. (Starbucks cards and a small bag of coffee beans.)





Just remember presentation is everything.





Make your guests feel as if they are part of something special, becuase they are.





Everyone loves a gift.





Made it fun for everyone.

The "B" word............

Budgets aren’t the most exciting things in life, but they are critical in planning your wedding. Whether you are planning this by yourself or will hire a wedding planner/ coordinator, your budget is one of the keys to a successful event. That is not to say that unless you have tens of thousands of dollars, you wedding will stink. Albeit, your budget really sets the rules of your wedding. If you plan to have 200 guests, a budget of $2000 will NOT cut it.

I attended a wedding where the bride and groom paid for everything themselves. Their wedding was very cute and reflected them to a tee, however their location was too large for the 50 people in attendance. They had planned for 200 guests on a $500 budget. With proper planning the money spent on the large location could have gone to another location to accommodate a wedding of their size and felt cozier. The end result was the same (They were married and are still happily married, however, years later the bride has a few regrets about the day.) With better planning and mastering their budget, she could have had the wedding of her dreams.

The other thing to consider is WHO is footing the bill. If your parents are paying, your partner’s parents are paying, the two of you are paying or it all falls somewhere in between.

One wedding I planned the bride’s parents and bride paid for everything except the future in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner. (This is the traditional route.) Everyone agreed on 100 to 150 guests. After crunching numbers the parents offered around five thousand and the bride was grateful for their help and said she would make up the rest. I knew based on the research I had done that some locations cost five thousand just to walk in the door, nothing included.
As an only child, the bride knew there were huge expectations from the rest of the family that her wedding would be a HUGE event. She agreed to disagree with her parents for the time being. The MOB (mother of the bride) came along to several possible locations. After about four, she and the FOB reconsidered and increased their offer. They realized with what they had in mind, five thousand dollars was not going to work.

Be flexible with what you have in mind for your weeding and the amount of money to be spent. A lot will change…things will be cut, while others will be added. Just take a lot of deep breaths and go with the flow. Also note: Anyone who is coughing up some cash will also have an opinion about your wedding.

You’re a budget should include, but not limited to:
CEREMONY Officiant fee, church, synagogue or mosque fee, ceremony accessories, marriage license fee. This should be about 3% of your total budget.
RECEPTION Food and service, beverages and bartender, cake, décor (other than flowers), lighting and site and/or rental fees. This should be around 48% of your total budget.
ATTIRE Gown, veil, shoes, purse, lingerie, jewelry, tux or suit, hair and makeup. This should be 11% of your total budget.
STATIONARY Announcements, save-the-dates, invitations, inserts, programs, thank-you notes, calligraphy, postage. This should be 3% of the total.
FLOWERS Bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, centerpieces, ceremony and site flowers, canopy cake topper.
MUSIC ceremony musicians, cocktail-hour musicians, reception band or DJ, sound system rental. This should be 8% of your budget.
PHOTO Photographer, engagement photos, videographer, wedding cameras, prints, cds, rights, and albums. Should be about 8% of the total.
RINGS his and Hers engraving. Most budgets say this should be 3% of the total and should included in the overall budget. My vote is NO! Keep this cost in mind, but it does not HAVE to be included.
TRANSPORTATION Limo or car rental, guest shuttle, parking. Roughly 1% of your budget.
GIFTS Favors, bridesmaid gifts, groomsmen and usher gifts, parents gifts, amenity and welcome bags or baskets. About 4% of your budget.
EMERENCY FUND Budget about 5% extra for extra that come up. Tips, taxes, etc. Trust me these things will pop up.
CONSULTANT this is normally 10-15% of your budget. OTHER pre-wedding hotel room, bridal suite, pre- and post-wedding parties (bridesmaid’s luncheon, rehearsal dinner, post-wedding brunch), and honeymoon.

We will discuss each of these items in detail and ways to save for each in a later blog. There are also many books about wedding budgeting.

Hit the Books, Baby

Yay, you got the ring!!! After you call all of your friends and family and post picture on myspace, facebook and your blog proclaiming yourself a taken women. Unless you have a a fat book wedding planning book, I recommend celebrating by buying a great wedding magazine and running to your nearest bridal store on a weeknight (Weekends are their busiest time) and trying on as many dresses as you wish. This is more of your play time and to get a feel for the wedding world and your likes and dislikes.

For serious research here are my suggestions:

Websites: (I like these sites because they are great resources to finding local vendors, interactive wedding checklists, and over all wedding information. The Wedding Knot Create a wedding page. This is a great way to announce the engagement and wedding plans to family and friend. Trust me, once they know you are engaged the next question is when you are going to set a date. Plus the Knot has a TON of information.
The Wedding Channel I love this site for the registry connection. This site also allows you to create a wedding page.
Get Married
Wedding Wire Brides

Magazines: Brides, Martha Stewart Weddings, I Do, and Modern Bride.

Books: (You can choose to purchase these books or go to the library. My girlfriends always borrow my books.) By topic: Inexpensive Weddings , The Grooms Guide - Great book for the guys, because let's face it. They are a bit out of their element when it comes to weddings., Wedding Kit for Dummies , and The Knot Guide to Wedding Vows and Traditions.

Whether you are a DIY Bride, Tight Budget Beauty, Green Granola Girl, Posh Princess or some of each, research is a MUST. As you plan, keep in mind to have fun. While everybody and their brother will have an opinion about the details of your day, realize that this is a special day between you and your significant other. Also feel free to enlist the help of family members, friends, or a wedding professional.

And thus it begins.........

This blog is the beginning of my chasing a dream which will soon come to reality and has come out of my love of all things to do with weddings and event planning. It goes beyond being a passion, more like an obsession.

Out of all events, weddings tend take on a life of their own. They require the most planning, thought, stress, anticipation, joy and tears (happy as well as frustrated ones.) The first thing to admit to yourself is no matter how much time, effort, and planning goes into an event, not everything will go as planned. During my own wedding, the hair stylist had a death in the family and the funeral was out of state the week of my wedding. I had exactly one week to locate a salon to accommodate five bridesmaids and me in the wee hours of the morning. I need not tell you what a daunting task that was.

As much as the wedding is about the bride and groom and two families/lives becoming one, another thing to keep in mind is your guests need to feel special. No kind deed, no matter how small, ever goes unnoticed or unappreciated. Many brides opt to leave welcome gift bags at the front desk of the hotel for out-of-towners. These items need not be costly. We will cover the specifics of items in a later blog.

As you begin the journey of planning the wedding, realize that there will be some stress (You want a beach wedding with white tuxes and your Nana finds the idea revolting……..) and all of this planning will be somewhat taxing. The best advise I got was to “Enjoy the planning process, write or blog about it, because once it is gone you might miss it.” Know this, while the process might be stressful, when all the right elements come together, a wedding can become something awe inspiring and magical. Most of all, whether you have a simple wedding on the beach, a grand event at a lavish hotel or even a barbeque, it should reflect the bride and groom.

My intension is not to become the next Emily Post or Martha Stewart of weddings with the hard core dos and don’t for weddings and event, but to simply gently guide and inspire you.

Who am I? You might be wondering……Well, I have always enjoyed event planning; be it dinner parties at our house, trips, birthdays, and of course weddings. I graduated from a smaller university in Atlanta, Georgia with a degree in Communication with in emphasis in Public Relations/Crisis Communication. Currently, I am pursuing a 130 credit hour Wedding Planning certificate from my aulmamater. I plan to share the knowledge I have (and will gain) with you as a whole and to aid brides in the greater Columbia, South Carolina area as an Events Coordinator.


Kind Regards and happy planning!